Author: RealYvonne

My Body And Me

Am I ever going to accept and love my body unconditionally? If I ever will, then when? I asked myself this question as I tried on a blouse this afternoon in a shop. Please do not tell me that I am the only person who feels this way about her body. Please tell me you understand and can relate to my feelings. Most mornings when I look at my naked body in the mirror, she actually looks strong, healthy and beautiful. But on the odd occasion like this afternoon I find myself struggling with the shape of my body. I struggle to accept the stretched skin around my tummy that came when my daughters were born. This stretched skin has refused to go away. It just won’t budge no matter what I do. My ‘wobbly tummy’ as my daughters call it just sits there and stares back at me. As I have mentioned in this blog before – until a few years ago, I had a big bottom. And by the way, my huge bottom …

Mummy Wars… Mothers Fighting Over Their Choices

Is it true that to be a good mother, your child must not spend time in paid for childcare? Do you think this ‘fact’ is just another way of putting a wedge between women? I believe it could well be a way of holding women back from achieving their dreams? Before my husband John and I got married, we talked and agreed on the type of childcare we wanted for our children (if we ever had children). The agreement was that one of us would have to sacrifice his or her career for a few years. Well, at least until the children were in full-time education. And this was what we did when our first daughter was born. Practicality meant I was the one who gave up their career because it made sense to; John earned far more than me. I remember the day I called my former employers (a well-known pharmaceutical company) to resign. I felt sad and angry that I had to give up my seat at the table. A seat I had …

Joyless Act of Comparison

Why do we compare ourselves to others? But in particular, why are women so good at the art of comparison? We are never happy with our bodies, the houses we live in, the jobs we hold down, the men or women we are with, the friends we have, etc., etc. Are you like me and constantly judging yourself? When I started my blog, I was innocently advised by specialist blogging books to visit other blogs to see, admire and learn from them. My innocent observation of some blogs has turned me into a bad judge of myself. This Judgement is a result of me comparing my writing style to other bloggers who I think are more advanced with words. Do you know what the sad bit of my comparison exercise is? I fail to remind myself that I am just a new-born baby in the world of blogging. This unnecessary judgement of myself has sometimes left me feeling rubbish and wanting to give up. By the way, I am not saying all women have this …

What Every Woman In A Relationship Must Know Now

Would you leave a safe but unhappy marriage for a happier life? Would you have the strength to leave your husband or wife to have no regrets when you are on your dying bed? Would it make any difference that the partner you are thinking of leaving has been tolerant and supportive of you? I asked myself these questions after watching the last episode of House of Cards. (Warning: spoiler alert). Yes, I know that Claire and Frank Underwood are fictional characters in a TV show, but Claire’s decision to walk away from it all left me with some soul-searching questions of my own. These are the questions I have asked you. The underlying agreement of all married couples is to love and support one another, I have this in my marriage to John, so do Claire and Frank. But there is a difference – my real-life marriage is old-fashioned; the Underwoods modern. So, in my old-fashioned views of what I believe a marriage must be, Claire and Frank’s marriage has always fascinated me. Claire and Frank …

Exciting News about RealYvonneBlog

Dear RealYvonneBlog followers, RealYvonneBlog is growing at an incredible rate. So, I’ve had to move it to a new hosting service. What this means is that WordPress won’t be sending you any more email notifications about exciting things happening at the RealYvonneBlog. But please don’t worry! There’s a new and easy way to sign up all my juicy news, adventures and worries. Signing up takes just a few seconds… 1. Please go directly to RealYvonne.com 2. On the right-hand side of the page, just pop in your Email Address and Name. Be rest assured that you are still on this journey with me. Thank you for supporting me over the last few months, and I still need your support for the future. Yvonne xxx

Monica Lewinsky And Me

Yesterday, Monica Lewinsky came into my home and made me cry. “That woman” reduced me to a crying mess as I prepared dinner for my family.

If you do not know Monica Lewinsky, she was the 22-years old graduate and Intern who fell for Bill Clinton. But, without going into details of the scandal especially the semen-stained dress, Monica publicly paid for inappropriately falling for Mr President…